Letter 5011: I love you dearly — and this affection is neither accidental nor random, for I chose to become your devoted friend...
To Potentinus.
I love you dearly — and this affection is neither accidental nor random, for I chose to become your devoted friend after careful deliberation. It is my habit to choose first and love afterward. What qualities, you ask, did I find praiseworthy in you?
I will tell you — gladly and briefly, since the one is required by gratitude and the other by the size of my page. I admire in your conduct that you do many things worthy of any good man's imitation. You farm with the greatest skill; you build with the finest judgment; you hunt with the highest effectiveness; you entertain with the utmost generosity; you joke with the sharpest wit; you judge with the strictest fairness; you advise with the purest sincerity; you are the slowest to anger and the quickest to forgive; you return affection with the deepest loyalty.
All these patterns of living I hold up for my son Apollinaris to follow, starting now in his youth. If he follows them, I rejoice; at the very least, I urge him to. In teaching and shaping him — if, with Christ's help, my plans succeed — I am overjoyed to borrow my best model for living from your character. Farewell.
Modern English rendering for readability. See the 19th-century translation or original Latin/Greek for scholarly use.
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