Letter 9107: The affliction of your Fraternity, which we have learned that you have had for the loss of your people, has given us such cause of grief that, since charity makes us two one, we feel our heart to be especially in your tribulations. But in the midst of this we have been much consoled by your having brought your mind to discern how it becomes you ...

Gregory to Aregius, Bishop of Vapincum [Gap, in southeastern Gaul]. Your Fraternity's grief over the loss of your people has caused me genuine sorrow -- since charity makes us one, I feel your tribulations as my own. But I have been much consoled to learn that you have brought your mind to bear your sorrow patiently, and that in the hope of another life, you have not allowed grief for death to linger. Still, in case some sorrow persists in your soul, let me urge you: rest from grief. Stop being sad. It is unbecoming to drown in affliction for those whom we believe have attained true life through dying. Those who know nothing of another life, who have no hope beyond this world -- they may have some excuse for prolonged mourning. But we who know, who believe, who teach these things -- we must not grieve excessively for those who have departed. What passes for affection in others becomes, in us, a kind of reproach. As the apostle Paul says, "We do not want you to be uninformed, brothers, concerning those who have fallen asleep, so that you may not grieve as others do who have no hope" (1 Thessalonians 4:13). With that before us, dearest brother, let us redirect our energy from mourning the dead to caring for the living, where compassion can do real good and love can bear fruit. From now on, let us hasten to profit everyone we can -- by reproving, urging, persuading, soothing, comforting. Let our words encourage the good and prod the wayward. Let them deflate the arrogant, calm the angry, stir up the sluggish, and kindle the idle. I also commend to you our most beloved son, the abbot Cyriacus, who carries this letter. Assist him in whatever he needs, and through your love, show him the effect of our commendation.

Book IX, Letter 107 To Aregius, Bishop of Vapincum . Gregory to Aregius, Bishop in Gaul. The affliction of your Fraternity, which we have learned that you have had for the loss of your people, has given us such cause of grief that, since charity makes us two one, we feel our heart to be especially in your tribulations. But in the midst of this we have been much consoled by your having brought your mind to discern how it becomes you to bear sorrow patiently, and, in the hope of another life, not to have long continued grief for death. Still, lest some tribulation should still maintain itself in your soul, I exhort you to rest from sorrow, to cease to be sad. For it is unseemly to addict oneself to wearisomeness of affliction for those of whom it is to be believed that they have attained to true life by dying. Those have perhaps just excuse for long continued grief who know not of another life, and have no trust that there is a passing from this world to a better. We, however, who know this, who believe it and teach it, ought not to be too much distressed for them that depart, lest what in others has a show of affection, be to us rather a matter of blame. For it is, as it were, a kind of distrust to be tormented by sadness in opposition to what everyone preaches, as the Apostle says, But we would not have you to be ignorant, brethren, concerning them that are asleep, that you sorrow not even as others which have no hope 1 Thessalonians 4:12. Having, therefore, this reason before us, dearest brother, we should try, as we have said, not to afflict ourselves about the dead, but bestow affection on the living, to whom pity may be of advantage and love bear fruit. Let us henceforth hasten, by reproving, exhorting, persuading, soothing, comforting, to profit all we can. Let our tongue be an encouragement to the good, a goad to the bad; let it beat down the puffed up, appease the angry, stir up the slow, kindle the idle by exhortation, persuade the shrinkers back, soothe the rough, comfort the despairing; that, as we are called leaders, we may show the way of salvation to them that are advancing forward. Let us be vigilant in keeping guard, let us defend all approaches against the snares of the enemy. And, if ever error should have drawn aside a sheep of the flocks committed to us through devious ways, let us strive with all our endeavours to recall it to the Lord's sheepfolds, so that from the name of shepherd which we bear we may reap not punishment, but a reward. Seeing, then, that in all this there is need of the help of divine grace, let us implore the clemency of Almighty God with continual prayers, to the end that for doing these things He may give us the will and grant us the power, and, with the fruit of good work, direct us in that way in which He has declared Himself to be the Shepherd of shepherds; that so, through Him, without whom we cannot rise to the doing of anything, we may be able to accomplish all Furthermore, our common son, Peter the deacon, has given us to understand that your Fraternity at the time when you were here requested that we would grant to yourself and your archdeacon license to use dalmatics . But, because compelled by the sickness of your people, you departed in such haste that the very grief that weighed upon you did not suffer you to press the matter any longer, as was fit and as the nature of your request required; and because we had many engagements, and consideration of ecclesiastical propriety did not allow us to concede a new thing inconsiderately and suddenly; for these reasons the carrying into effect of the thing demanded has been long postponed. Now, however, recalling to mind your Charity's good deservings, by the tenor of this our authority we grant you your request, and have granted to you or to your archdeacon to be decorated by the use of dalmatics; and we have sent the same dalmatics by the hands of our most beloved son, the abbot Cyriacus. Furthermore, at the synod which we have decreed should be assembled through our brother and fellow bishop Syagrius against simoniacal heresy, we desire you to be present; and we have ordered the pallium which we have sent for our said brother to be accordingly given him, on condition of his promising to remove from holy Church, by a definition of the synod, the unlawful things which we have prohibited. Concerning which synod we desire your Fraternity to report to us fully by letter all its proceedings, that you yourself, whose holiness we are well acquainted with, may inform us about everything.