Letter 4012: It is the nature of things that anxiety should turn to joy and complaint should become praise whenever our desires...

Ennodius of PaviaJohn|c. 502 AD|Ennodius of Pavia
friendship
From: Ennodius, deacon and literary figure in Pavia
To: John [Iohannes, identity uncertain]
Date: ~502 AD
Context: A letter forgiving a friend's long silence — Ennodius frames his forgiveness as a model of generous love that the recipient should study and imitate.

Ennodius to John.

It is the nature of things that anxiety should turn to joy and complaint should become praise whenever our desires are granted. I was uncertain what to make of Your Eminence's long silence, but now that I have received what I hoped for, I find myself searching for an honorable excuse on your behalf. See what a clear conscience in friendship can do: I forgive everything, as though the whole affair had gone exactly as I wished, mollified by a simple gift.

Here is a model of generous love for you to study, and an example of constancy in friendship for you to borrow. If you follow my lead, not even a multitude of offenses will separate you from my affection, and a single kindness from your friend will absolve all faults.

You accuse me of silence? You accuse me of forgetfulness? Where was your own spirit when my letters went unanswered and you showed no urgency to pick up a pen? You wrote freely to everyone else in Liguria, sending pages to those who had no greater claim on you than I did — and yet to me you offered only silence.

But I have said enough. Between friends who truly love each other, the complaint itself is proof that the bond survives. Farewell.

Modern English rendering for readability. See the 19th-century translation or original Latin/Greek for scholarly use.

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